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Long Distance Relationship Q&A

Hi! After all the questions and a long overdue, i decided to share a part of my life as the member of Long Distance Relationship survivor(and still surviving). I made a video in bahasa because the majority of you guys asked me in bahasa but don't worry for those who were amazed by the lack of subtitle in my video, please read the transcipt here in ENGLISH!

1. How to get over with the trust issues to start a long distance relationship?
You should not have a trust issue at all with your love one with or without a long distance relationship, do an advanced research about him before you two decide to have a relationship. Use your logic and if you don't trust him enough then why should you two be together?

2. How to tackle the insecurity of LDR when you know your significant other is so popular and lovable?
TRUST TRUST TRUST, you should be able to trust him that much and stop the fights, no matter how small it is; at the end of the day those fights are now worth the pain.

3. What about birthday? How could i give my significant others a surprise or a gift?
I usually pay the bakery a head of time or with DHL or UPS, just send him the surprise gift darling!

4. How to survive LDR?
Set aside both of your egos and try to see the big picture. What is your mission? Is he/she your true soulmate? Humor is an essential thing in a relationship especially if you want to have a long term one. You need to also have your own space, grow your network, focus on your career. Don't be too clingy, have a life! You need to have your own thing and share it with your love one.
Honesty is also essential... Without it there's no point to even be together anymore.

5.Lesson from LDR that non-LDR couple won't get?
I think time management! With all the time difference and activities you have. Time is the key!
Energy saving is another lesson, you need to be able to manage and focus where and when to put your energy. Last but not least, i learn to be an independent woman. I was a little bit spoiled thanks to my gentleman boyfriend who always drive, cook, edit and decide for me. I started my relationship when i was 17 so... I became a better person basically! I grew up... Sometimes you need to learn to live alone and to deal with a lot of problems alone to be independent.

6. Is it awkward everytime you meet after not be able to see each other for a long time?
Never, you should be happy no? We've been together for years so distance shouldn't be a problem, we're still the same person. You definitely need to connect the missing link in your relationship. Unless you made him/her for the very first time(it's okay to feel awkward but thanks to internet right?)

7.  Should i trust a guy who said he was afraid to start a relationship with me because he doesn't want me to focus on him while i was studying abroad but he'll still love me anyway?
NO NO NO,  LDR is tough so you need a guy who knows what he wants and who's tough enough to have a long distance relationship! If he's afraid now... maybe he'll start a relationship behind your back in the future. So my answer is no.

8. How to manage homesick during long distance relationship?
Explore the city, travel a lot! Focus on your career/education. Learn new things; new language for instance. Last but not least, use your skype and maintain your communication with your significant other.

9. How to handle fights during LDR?
My boyfriend and i never have a fight for more than 24 hours. We try to solve the problems as fast as possible and move on! We have too much things to do than arguing on the small things. Learn to support each other instead of bringing each other down. It's hard enough to not be able to see each, make your LDR a great experience not a reason to break up.

10.If you could turn back time, will you still do a long distance relationship?
Yes, i will. LDR is fun in a way... Okay okay judging minds, let me explain it before you start OMGing. I grew up and become an independent woman because of this LDR thingy. I learned things that i won't be able to learn in my home country. I have a lot of great experiences here in Milan and i can't wait to share it with you guys! I am who i am because of the experiences i've been through. I could also test my love on and our relationship is getting stronger and stronger because of the distance.

That's all guys, hope you learn something from this post! Feel free to comment down below and please subscribe to my youtube channel will ya!

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  1. I've ever experienced it as well. Thanks to LDR, we're going to step a marriage life. It make us tougher I guess. And if I could turn back time, I might be enjoy do it again.. enjoy reading this post <3

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  2. i've ever have that kind of relationship. it's hard at the first but we always know that we can make it. too bad that we have to broke up bcs of another reason. Love your post :)

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  4. I don't watch your video because of slow connection here. Aaaaahh your post really reminds me of my time back when I was studying in Holland and my ex was in Indonesia. I communicated w/ him via Skype n BBM (it was 2010, iPhone was not really hype in college students that time). Anyway I suck at LDR. I don't like Skype, I don't like communication. Even with my husband now, when I was still pacaran with him, he complained a lot that I didn't live up to his expectation of maintaining communication hahahaha. Eventhough it was just only offshore - town (I work in offshore rig and he's at town). Anyway I learnt a lot about it and I think I contact him quite frequently now becoming a wife.

    Basically I can't maintain communication. Should I move overseas again, I'll get my hubby travel with me hahahaha.

  5. yeah its hard, but you can do it if its true love!when i had these type of relationships i was first in a very difficult situation, so i started to read info about them and found this article it helped me a lot!